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Author Topic: Extended School Year  (Read 225 times)

Ocuw9i

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Extended School Year
« on: June 12, 2018, 02:02:25 am »
This is DS's first summer without ESY since, gosh... 2014, when he was 3.

But I remember this was the regular season for the Raising Special Needs Kids group to see posts about grandparents pressuring moms to not put their grandchildren in ESY so they can spend more time with them.

Has anyone else ever dealt with that? Last year was the first time I saw it. I had a baby last year and only found out once MIL was crying that she'd thought we'd be to busy with the baby to put DS in ESY. I was kind of surprised with how hard she took it.
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Re: Extended School Year
« Reply #1 on: June 16, 2018, 08:24:58 am »
No, I have not dealt with that. But we do not rely on either set of grandparents for care or support, and they are a bit distant to my kid.

We declined ESY this summer, because it just was not a good fit for my DS, his specific needs and our family. But we are paying for private classes for tutoring. And seeing psychologist.

What I remember last year in the SN group—when I was complaining about the ESY and how hard it was for me and my DS. And someone responded that I was a lazy horrible mother, that didn’t even deserve to have kids. And no one in the forum called her out on it. It was definitely in the top 5 meanest comments from my 10 years on Cafemom, lol.

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Re: Extended School Year
« Reply #2 on: June 16, 2018, 09:16:08 am »
That sucks. Sincerely. And not at all in the spirit of that group, so I'm really sorry it went undetected by the "watchdogs" of your fellow group members.

I'm not sure the thought process, since my ILs live too far away to be childcare. But my mom lives thousands of miles away and said she's looking forward to the day DS has an open schedule in the summer so she can take him on trips. So, I guess it's fine if she thinks his schedule is the reason he's not spending the summer thousands of miles away from us, lol.
No, I have not dealt with that. But we do not rely on either set of grandparents for care or support, and they are a bit distant to my kid.

We declined ESY this summer, because it just was not a good fit for my DS, his specific needs and our family. But we are paying for private classes for tutoring. And seeing psychologist.

What I remember last year in the SN group—when I was complaining about the ESY and how hard it was for me and my DS. And someone responded that I was a lazy horrible mother, that didn’t even deserve to have kids. And no one in the forum called her out on it. It was definitely in the top 5 meanest comments from my 10 years on Cafemom, lol.

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Re: Extended School Year
« Reply #3 on: June 16, 2018, 09:25:58 pm »
Grandparents can be odd.

That sucks. Sincerely. And not at all in the spirit of that group, so I'm really sorry it went undetected by the "watchdogs" of your fellow group members.

I'm not sure the thought process, since my ILs live too far away to be childcare. But my mom lives thousands of miles away and said she's looking forward to the day DS has an open schedule in the summer so she can take him on trips. So, I guess it's fine if she thinks his schedule is the reason he's not spending the summer thousands of miles away from us, lol.
No, I have not dealt with that. But we do not rely on either set of grandparents for care or support, and they are a bit distant to my kid.

We declined ESY this summer, because it just was not a good fit for my DS, his specific needs and our family. But we are paying for private classes for tutoring. And seeing psychologist.

What I remember last year in the SN group—when I was complaining about the ESY and how hard it was for me and my DS. And someone responded that I was a lazy horrible mother, that didn’t even deserve to have kids. And no one in the forum called her out on it. It was definitely in the top 5 meanest comments from my 10 years on Cafemom, lol.

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Re: Extended School Year
« Reply #4 on: June 16, 2018, 09:36:32 pm »
My sister and cousin both became moms for the first time in their late 30s within months of each other. My mom started talking about how much fun she would have, taking the babies on trips. She seemed confused that this bothered my sister and cousin, because didn't they understand their babies would get older.

My mom is taking my oldest on a trip this summer, but she's fifteen.
Grandparents can be odd.

That sucks. Sincerely. And not at all in the spirit of that group, so I'm really sorry it went undetected by the "watchdogs" of your fellow group members.

I'm not sure the thought process, since my ILs live too far away to be childcare. But my mom lives thousands of miles away and said she's looking forward to the day DS has an open schedule in the summer so she can take him on trips. So, I guess it's fine if she thinks his schedule is the reason he's not spending the summer thousands of miles away from us, lol.
No, I have not dealt with that. But we do not rely on either set of grandparents for care or support, and they are a bit distant to my kid.

We declined ESY this summer, because it just was not a good fit for my DS, his specific needs and our family. But we are paying for private classes for tutoring. And seeing psychologist.

What I remember last year in the SN group—when I was complaining about the ESY and how hard it was for me and my DS. And someone responded that I was a lazy horrible mother, that didn’t even deserve to have kids. And no one in the forum called her out on it. It was definitely in the top 5 meanest comments from my 10 years on Cafemom, lol.

 

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