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Author Topic: Do you know adults who were extremely over-protected as children?  (Read 155 times)

shnuppyTups

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How did it affect the person?  Did the person having trouble socializing or maintaining relationships?  Keeping a job?  Making decisions?  Anything else?  What do you think about extreme over-protectiveness in parents?

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mamaracheli

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I was lol. As was my husband. We were very sheltered (to protect us from influences from outside). It hasn't  affected us negatively or in the ways you ask.

Ocuw9i

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My husband was. I guess one way it affected him was that he doesn't think he wouldn't have been able to do college if he'd had to choose classes and be self-motivated. He went to a college that put him on a track, so he was told what all his courses would be and where he'd have to go.

Probably the biggest way it affected him is that he married me, lol. Too late now, and his life's forever changed.

Dalmatian_Plantation

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I wasn't protected at all. I was abused and controlled. My uncle was over protected as a child and now he is an asshole.

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I know a couple of people who were sheltered. Both are well adjusted normal adults. One went super crazy for a while there though. As soon as his parents let go of the reigns a bit he took off running and yeah lol. There was a while there where I wasn't sure he was going to see 21.

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My DH manages a few people that have some major difficulties with coping with work difficulties, which he believes is related to a sheltered & over-protective upbringing.

shnuppyTups

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In what way is he an asshole?

I wasn't protected at all. I was abused and controlled. My uncle was over protected as a child and now he is an asshole.

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 I have never been one to watch a parent and assume just from looking I understand whats happening and why. Is a kid pushed to hard or not hard enough? Are they being babied? Do they have over protective parents?


These are just unnecessary thoughts that bring zero benefit into my life unless for some reason I am trying to meet someone at their level of understanding where this information may prove vital.

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I was,I was also quiet so kids in school called me snob or snotty.

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I was in a way. Basically I was babied and coddled until I was 13. Then my mother basically looked at me and said okay you're a teenager you have to start doing for yourself.Only problem is I was never shown how to do my own laundry, use a vacuum cleaner anything like that. So I had no idea how to take care of my own stuff. I was also  expected to start riding the school bus which I had always been told was too dangerous to ride beforehand. I had also never stayed home alone except for like 10 minutes when my aunt accidentally left her purse at our home and my mother went running to try to beat her to the traffic light the next street over.

I was also told up until that point that it was too dangerous for me to play sports and then suddenly it was like okay you're 13 you want to play softball now? And never played it a day in my life had been begging to play for on the team since I was like 6 years old until I was 9 or 10. Yeah no team was going to want someone who had never played softball before.

my mother basically felt 14 was an adult so yeah she was thrusting me into the Adult World way too quick by this point with no preparation. For context, she didn't have above an eighth grade education (until she took the GED in her mid 30s), married her first husband at 14 and had my sister at 15.

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So basically it made me the perfect victim for a child molester and I felt like a complete failure in life throughout my teen years. Working was the one thing I didn't fail at or find hard to do. It was an escape at first but and then a confidence booster.

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My coworker. She was extremely sheltered and had a very different up-bringing.


She has some really odd social issues. Has no idea what is acceptable vs not acceptable. Is a groupie of an actor who does those conventions, pays thousands of dollars to see him and thinks they are in a relationship. Talks about him like he is her boyfriend etc.

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Which actor? 

My coworker. She was extremely sheltered and had a very different up-bringing.


She has some really odd social issues. Has no idea what is acceptable vs not acceptable. Is a groupie of an actor who does those conventions, pays thousands of dollars to see him and thinks they are in a relationship. Talks about him like he is her boyfriend etc.

 

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