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Posted by: Akmom25
« on: September 11, 2019, 07:05:26 pm »

Why does it have to be a ďfaultĒ thing? Why canít it simply be something that you need to correct?

To answer your question - you are wrong

This is not about a speech delay, this is about negative, unruly, behavior that needs to be corrected.

I agree with you. I want his behaviors to be corrected. It just seems impossible because Iím not there at daycare and I canít correct it. At home, my son doesnít act this way. So Iím in a stump and I donít know how to address it. Iím thinking maybe since they give him attention every time he acts out, he continues to do it. And itís just getting worse and worse at daycare.. Iím starting to think they are addressing the situation wrong, they need to show the other kid attention who got hurt. They need to praise my son when heís being good and give attention then, so he knows with good behavior he will get attention, not bad behaviors.


Interesting because you were extremely rude to me on your other post concerning the same subject, hun.

Did you realize that I said you were wrong.  This is not a daycare issue.  It is unrealistic to expect the daycare to run the program tailored to one child. 

The childíd Behavior  is a cue that there is another challenge the child is dealing with.  I am sure that speech therapist who knows better than anyone else explained in detail that speech, hearing, and the ability to mimic behavior are all closely related, especially at this age. 

Walk around a crowded room with ear plugs, or try to concentrate with an annoying buzzing constant background sound for hours every single day. Let us know how frustrated and angry you become.  It doesnít matter if you believe the child had perfect hearing, he should be evaluated for sensory and sensitivity issues because so many go hand in hand with speech challenges.

If he responds to you at home then he is responding to punishment which is not discipline or the environment is calm allowing him to be calm. I would bet itís a combination of environment and comfort level.   One of my children wigged our every single time we were in certain stores and not others. Thankfully I have the education and experience to realize that something else was going on. The lighting in certain stores would ďbuzzĒ. She could hear it to the point it was louder than any other sounds and it frustrated and frightened her.
Children respond much the same to frustration and fear.

I am not a speech therapist but I do know a free things about Childrenís Behavioral Psychology.

Please have the child evaluated and please remember that sometimes especially in young children behavior is a cue not the problem
Posted by: Blonde720
« on: September 11, 2019, 10:12:19 am »

He may need a more structured program with a smaller child to adult ratio. It may just be what's best for him and no one's fault at all.

Iíve been thinking that myself.. maybe a change in daycare would be good for him.
Posted by: Blonde720
« on: September 11, 2019, 10:11:05 am »

Why does it have to be a ďfaultĒ thing? Why canít it simply be something that you need to correct?

To answer your question - you are wrong

This is not about a speech delay, this is about negative, unruly, behavior that needs to be corrected.

I agree with you. I want his behaviors to be corrected. It just seems impossible because Iím not there at daycare and I canít correct it. At home, my son doesnít act this way. So Iím in a stump and I donít know how to address it. Iím thinking maybe since they give him attention every time he acts out, he continues to do it. And itís just getting worse and worse at daycare.. Iím starting to think they are addressing the situation wrong, they need to show the other kid attention who got hurt. They need to praise my son when heís being good and give attention then, so he knows with good behavior he will get attention, not bad behaviors.
Posted by: Brainysmurf
« on: September 08, 2019, 02:19:34 pm »

He may need a more structured program with a smaller child to adult ratio. It may just be what's best for him and no one's fault at all.
Posted by: Akmom25
« on: September 07, 2019, 12:55:41 pm »

Why does it have to be a ďfaultĒ thing? Why canít it simply be something that you need to correct?

To answer your question - you are wrong

This is not about a speech delay, this is about negative, unruly, behavior that needs to be corrected.
Posted by: Blonde720
« on: September 06, 2019, 10:12:22 pm »

Alright moms, tell me if Iím wrong or if the daycares wrong in this situation. Iíve had a problem with my sons daycare for about 3 months. Carter pulls the other childrenís hair when heís upset. He has a speech delay (I have him in speech therapy) I feel this is how he expresses himself since he doesnít talk much. I told his daycare I put him in time out when he pulls his cousins hair. This has been working for me. He rarely pulls his cousins hair and if he does he goes straight into time out. Well at daycare heís been pulling hair ďnonstopĒ they told me he randomly pulls the other kids hair for no reason. They have ONE teacher for 10-15 kids ratio. I said maybe the kids are acting out because they arenít getting the attention they need. I was told that I was wrong, that Carter just randomly pulls hair for no reason. The other kids push each other, and run around like chickens with their head cut off. I witnessed twice now that some little boy pushed my son. I said today ďthose other little kids show aggression, maybe my son learned it from themď carters daycare said ďno those other kids learned it from himĒ lmao. Thatís a bunch of BS! Toddlers express themselves by pushing, hitting, biting or pulling hair. I told themĒwell my approach at him is working just fine, he doesnít ďrandomlyĒ pull hair, thereís always a cause, but anyways maybe you guys need to change your approach with discipline since your approach isnít workingĒ they changed the subject and redirected Carters issue with pulling hair on me. They said ďYou need to work with him at homeĒ Iíve told them over and over how Carter doesnít do that with me. Iíve taken him to many social events with other kids and Carter doesnít act this way. Do you guys think itís the teachers fault for Carter misbehaving at daycare only? Or is it my fault?

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