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Author Topic: There's good news and bad news  (Read 701 times)

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Re: There's good news and bad news
« Reply #45 on: December 06, 2018, 07:28:14 am »
Linda I'm glad that you have a place to stay with your friend right now. I do hope that you're serious about trying to find a place, because even though your friend Jeff isn't rushing you, you can't stay there indefinitely or you will wear out your welcome. Hopefully you don't get too comfortable there and don't move until you're forced out, like last time.

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Re: There's good news and bad news
« Reply #46 on: December 06, 2018, 07:41:45 am »
Anyone want to take bets on how long this "job" & place to stay will last?

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Re: There's good news and bad news
« Reply #47 on: December 06, 2018, 08:32:40 am »
It's not that he hasn't cared in a very long time.
Do you ever hear me complain about it I accept it I move on like a big girl it is what it is it is what it is.     It's more frustrating for people that asked me to reach out for help from him and they really genuinely don't understand that he just doesn't care but one parent that genuinely care is gone uthor=notanenabler link=topic=2162.msg33232#msg33232 date=1544047032]
He's done enabling you, you've burned him too many times


Look I'm not trying to play victim butt he just doesn't care.
 Honestly I'm not even upset about it it's just the way it is author=Brainysmurf link=topic=2162.msg33221#msg33221 date=1544044379]
Oh Linda, call your Dad.
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So now your mom is was great person? Didnít she drink while pregnant and was in and out of rehab?

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Re: There's good news and bad news
« Reply #48 on: December 06, 2018, 09:00:44 am »
Congrats on the job! Bummer things didn't work out with the other place, but, just keep moving forward!!

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Re: There's good news and bad news
« Reply #49 on: December 06, 2018, 10:42:06 am »
How can you say location doesn't make a difference.
 Thankfully my friend Jeff and his family aren't rushing needs the next location so I do have an opportunity to try to find something better this time.    =Jackie0probz link=topic=2162.msg33222#msg33222 date=1544045026]

So your friend lives with his parents & now YOU'RE living there,too? If so, what a shitshow!

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Re: There's good news and bad news
« Reply #50 on: December 06, 2018, 11:45:36 am »
They have a five bedroom four bath house.  Only two kids are still at home and my friend has cerbal palsy.  How is that a shitshow.     My friend can't live alone so I don't understand why you're being a douche author=Bubelah link=topic=2162.msg33283#msg33283 date=1544114526]
How can you say location doesn't make a difference.
 Thankfully my friend Jeff and his family aren't rushing needs the next location so I do have an opportunity to try to find something better this time.    =Jackie0probz link=topic=2162.msg33222#msg33222 date=1544045026]

So your friend lives with his parents & now YOU'RE living there,too? If so, what a shitshow!

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Re: There's good news and bad news
« Reply #51 on: December 06, 2018, 12:01:22 pm »
First off, You KNOW he has romantic feelings for you that don't reciprocate, you just use them to take advantage of him. Secondly have an additional dysfunctional "adult" in their home is a burden no matter how many rooms they have. The fact that you don't see that is typical of your self-absorbed, self-centered personality If that's not a shitshow nothing is

They have a five bedroom four bath house.  Only two kids are still at home and my friend has cerbal palsy.  How is that a shitshow.     My friend can't live alone so I don't understand why you're being a douche author=Bubelah link=topic=2162.msg33283#msg33283 date=1544114526]
How can you say location doesn't make a difference.
 Thankfully my friend Jeff and his family aren't rushing needs the next location so I do have an opportunity to try to find something better this time.    =Jackie0probz link=topic=2162.msg33222#msg33222 date=1544045026]

So your friend lives with his parents & now YOU'RE living there,too? If so, what a shitshow!

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Re: There's good news and bad news
« Reply #52 on: December 06, 2018, 12:11:24 pm »
Let me guess youíre doing absolutely nothing to help out, pay bills etc. if his parents are smart they will kick you out before you can establish residency.

Also you probably dropped out of school right?

But you wonít answer because Iím soooo mean!

They have a five bedroom four bath house.  Only two kids are still at home and my friend has cerbal palsy.  How is that a shitshow.     My friend can't live alone so I don't understand why you're being a douche author=Bubelah link=topic=2162.msg33283#msg33283 date=1544114526]
How can you say location doesn't make a difference.
 Thankfully my friend Jeff and his family aren't rushing needs the next location so I do have an opportunity to try to find something better this time.    =Jackie0probz link=topic=2162.msg33222#msg33222 date=1544045026]

So your friend lives with his parents & now YOU'RE living there,too? If so, what a shitshow!

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Re: There's good news and bad news
« Reply #53 on: December 06, 2018, 12:14:08 pm »
That would be a shitshow if she did end up taking care of a disabled or elderly adult.

Also she says she has a mental illness but does the bare minimum to stay stable if she is. She wonít get on disability or go to a group home because that requires work. Heaven forbid she does anything for herself.

She can't take care of herself, cook for herself with any regularity, has entirely too many days where she "can't get out of bed".  the LAST thing she should be doing is taking care of an elderly person.  An attempt at that job would end with her being charged with elder abuse or neglect. 

It's time for disability & a group home where she can be taught basic life skills, low level job training & mental health help.

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Re: There's good news and bad news
« Reply #54 on: December 06, 2018, 12:17:13 pm »
It was in the past that he had wanted to come and see me we have moved beyond that in our friendship means more  and us not being friends because we're not romantically compatible.      My friend has told me a half a dozen time  are welcome here.    What are you suggesting I shouldn't even have taken him up on his offer are you suggesting that I haven't been his friend over the last almost four years.   Its a give and take relationship.  On Saturday night I was going to go get a motel room in my friend insisted that I come to his house  and he insists that I find a safe place to stay.
I know it's hard for you to believe that someone could care about me and actually see me being a decent person and having value but you know what the ones that are in real life for the ones that matter the most obviously he cares about me I know it's not about anything romantic anymore he has a new interest.  Today I'm taking him to his final and I'm willing to do whatever else I can to help out.    It's not like the first time I showed up at his house I was homeless.    If my friend feels used why has he told me even this morning that I'm welcome here a good three or four times and no it has nothing to do with being sexual or romantic or friends yes in the beginning he had feelings for me but and now it's we're best friends.     He's the one that even told me to go check out a place and come back to his house sleep on it and then go and move in if you wanted me out ASAP he wouldn't be saying that.    But if you want to make me feel bad go ahead I'm already in a really low spot right now I don't feel that great about myself.   I put $1,000 out there to find a new place to live and it didn't work out.  I'm doing the best that I can.      Are you saying I should have just not taking him up on his offer even though he insisted I come and insists I find a safe place to stay.     God forbid somebody could actually just care about me.     uthor=you'reauser link=topic=2162.msg33286#msg33286 date=1544119282]
First off, You KNOW he has romantic feelings for you that don't reciprocate, you just use them to take advantage of him. Secondly have an additional dysfunctional "adult" in their home is a burden no matter how many rooms they have. The fact that you don't see that is typical of your self-absorbed, self-centered personality If that's not a shitshow nothing is

They have a five bedroom four bath house.  Only two kids are still at home and my friend has cerbal palsy.  How is that a shitshow.     My friend can't live alone so I don't understand why you're being a douche author=Bubelah link=topic=2162.msg33283#msg33283 date=1544114526]
How can you say location doesn't make a difference.
 Thankfully my friend Jeff and his family aren't rushing needs the next location so I do have an opportunity to try to find something better this time.    =Jackie0probz link=topic=2162.msg33222#msg33222 date=1544045026]

So your friend lives with his parents & now YOU'RE living there,too? If so, what a shitshow!
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Re: There's good news and bad news
« Reply #55 on: December 06, 2018, 12:20:36 pm »
They have a five bedroom four bath house.  Only two kids are still at home and my friend has cerbal palsy.  How is that a shitshow.     My friend can't live alone so I don't understand why you're being a douche author=Bubelah link=topic=2162.msg33283#msg33283 date=1544114526]
How can you say location doesn't make a difference.
 Thankfully my friend Jeff and his family aren't rushing needs the next location so I do have an opportunity to try to find something better this time.    =Jackie0probz link=topic=2162.msg33222#msg33222 date=1544045026]

So your friend lives with his parents & now YOU'RE living there,too? If so, what a shitshow!

Just because they have a 5 bedroom house doesn't mean that they have to take responsibility for you or provide you a place to live for free.   I have a 5 bedroom house and 3 of those bedrooms are unused, but doesn't mean that I have to let my ds's friends live here for free or live here at all. 

To believe that just because they have room that you deserve to stay there is called being entitled.  You are  NOT entitled to a room in THEIR house forever just because you need one.  You do not have the right to take advantage of a short term offer to stay as long as you want because you can't get your shit together. 

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Re: There's good news and bad news
« Reply #56 on: December 06, 2018, 12:21:42 pm »
I actually found my place to live last time all by myself  I move they're all by myself  I moved out all by myself.
  I've done a lot of things by myself you're not alone you have a husband what makes you so high and mighty.  And honestly in the summer I was doing okay financially it was August that hit me like a ton of bricks because I had my insurance I had my car registration i-aaa.    So it's not like I use my resources on crack and all of a sudden I'm in a bad situation I use my resources on being legally able to drive.   And I've done nothing to not be a part of my child's life.    The only reason why he hasn't been around is because I've been Sheltering it so better way of handling this is expose him and then that way I could keep him in my life how about getting my s*** together and then bring them back into my life.   I was feeling sorry for myself I would have made a post on Saturday when I was in my car at 38 degree weather no doing the best that I f****** can.      And on a side note I was actually originally diagnosed with bipolar when I was 18 and then I was diagnosed again when I was 24 and I was diagnosed again after I had my son at 25.    But after I had my son I didn't want to have that kind of diagnosis and it wasn't actually read diagnosed until September of 2016 and February 2017 when I was in the hospital so I have been diagnosed with bipolar and borderline personality disorder all the way back from year 2000.     uthor=Coffeechoco12 link=topic=2162.msg33288#msg33288 date=1544120048]
That would be a shitshow if she did end up taking care of a disabled or elderly adult.

Also she says she has a mental illness but does the bare minimum to stay stable if she is. She wonít get on disability or go to a group home because that requires work. Heaven forbid she does anything for herself.

She can't take care of herself, cook for herself with any regularity, has entirely too many days where she "can't get out of bed".  the LAST thing she should be doing is taking care of an elderly person.  An attempt at that job would end with her being charged with elder abuse or neglect. 

It's time for disability & a group home where she can be taught basic life skills, low level job training & mental health help.
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Re: There's good news and bad news
« Reply #57 on: December 06, 2018, 12:22:58 pm »
It was in the past that he had wanted to come and see me we have moved beyond that in our friendship means more  and us not being friends because we're not romantically compatible.      My friend has told me a half a dozen time  are welcome here.    What are you suggesting I shouldn't even have taken him up on his offer are you suggesting that I haven't been his friend over the last almost four years.   Its a give and take relationship.  On Saturday night I was going to go get a motel room in my friend insisted that I come to his house  and he insists that I find a safe place to stay.
I know it's hard for you to believe that someone could care about me and actually see me being a decent person and having value but you know what the ones that are in real life for the ones that matter the most obviously he cares about me I know it's not about anything romantic anymore he has a new interest.  Today I'm taking him to his final and I'm willing to do whatever else I can to help out.    It's not like the first time I showed up at his house I was homeless.    If my friend feels used why has he told me even this morning that I'm welcome here a good three or four times and no it has nothing to do with being sexual or romantic or friends yes in the beginning he had feelings for me but and now it's we're best friends.     He's the one that even told me to go check out a place and come back to his house sleep on it and then go and move in if you wanted me out ASAP he wouldn't be saying that.    But if you want to make me feel bad go ahead I'm already in a really low spot right now I don't feel that great about myself.   I put $1,000 out there to find a new place to live and it didn't work out.  I'm doing the best that I can.      Are you saying I should have just not taking him up on his offer even though he insisted I come and insists I find a safe place to stay.     God forbid somebody could actually just care about me.     uthor=you'reauser link=topic=2162.msg33286#msg33286 date=1544119282]
First off, You KNOW he has romantic feelings for you that don't reciprocate, you just use them to take advantage of him. Secondly have an additional dysfunctional "adult" in their home is a burden no matter how many rooms they have. The fact that you don't see that is typical of your self-absorbed, self-centered personality If that's not a shitshow nothing is

They have a five bedroom four bath house.  Only two kids are still at home and my friend has cerbal palsy.  How is that a shitshow.     My friend can't live alone so I don't understand why you're being a douche author=Bubelah link=topic=2162.msg33283#msg33283 date=1544114526]
How can you say location doesn't make a difference.
 Thankfully my friend Jeff and his family aren't rushing needs the next location so I do have an opportunity to try to find something better this time.    =Jackie0probz link=topic=2162.msg33222#msg33222 date=1544045026]

So your friend lives with his parents & now YOU'RE living there,too? If so, what a shitshow!


STOP ACTING LIKE A VICTIM!!!!!  YOU created the entire situation.  YOU are in this spot because of YOUR lack of timely action.  STOP WITH THE VICTIM ROUTINE.   

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« Reply #58 on: December 06, 2018, 12:25:02 pm »
I have zero motivation of taking advantage I've been trying to do household chores and  show that I'm grateful.
  Just this morning alone my friend told me good three or four times I have a place to go I'm not alone don't rush into a scary position I'm cared about.  I am more than grateful that I can stay here.   Honestly I had no intention of staying here all the way until Thursday from Saturday.   What is it that you ladies are suggesting I should have a homeless shelter I would be able to function better and find my next step from homeless shelter from where I'm at right now.    Of course I'm entitled to nothing I never once said I was entitled to nothing.    When she said shitshow she made it seem like it was all of us in a two bedroom apartment with one bathroom.    His mom told me that his younger brother is coming back in two weeks and I could even use his room until then.   
Rather than criticize me what is my next step.   My friend was worried about me in a motel not being able to function not being able to get myself out of a hole and being crying mess.      Please translate basically I shouldn't even take him up on his offer and I should go stay in a motel regardless of how many times he's insisted I stay here.       uthor=Myahny link=topic=2162.msg33292#msg33292 date=1544120436]
They have a five bedroom four bath house.  Only two kids are still at home and my friend has cerbal palsy.  How is that a shitshow.     My friend can't live alone so I don't understand why you're being a douche author=Bubelah link=topic=2162.msg33283#msg33283 date=1544114526]
How can you say location doesn't make a difference.
 Thankfully my friend Jeff and his family aren't rushing needs the next location so I do have an opportunity to try to find something better this time.    =Jackie0probz link=topic=2162.msg33222#msg33222 date=1544045026]

So your friend lives with his parents & now YOU'RE living there,too? If so, what a shitshow!

Just because they have a 5 bedroom house doesn't mean that they have to take responsibility for you or provide you a place to live for free.   I have a 5 bedroom house and 3 of those bedrooms are unused, but doesn't mean that I have to let my ds's friends live here for free or live here at all. 

To believe that just because they have room that you deserve to stay there is called being entitled.  You are  NOT entitled to a room in THEIR house forever just because you need one.  You do not have the right to take advantage of a short term offer to stay as long as you want because you can't get your shit together.
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Re: There's good news and bad news
« Reply #59 on: December 06, 2018, 12:32:31 pm »
They have a five bedroom four bath house.  Only two kids are still at home and my friend has cerbal palsy.  How is that a shitshow.     My friend can't live alone so I don't understand why you're being a douche author=Bubelah link=topic=2162.msg33283#msg33283 date=1544114526]
How can you say location doesn't make a difference.
 Thankfully my friend Jeff and his family aren't rushing needs the next location so I do have an opportunity to try to find something better this time.    =Jackie0probz link=topic=2162.msg33222#msg33222 date=1544045026]

So your friend lives with his parents & now YOU'RE living there,too? If so, what a shitshow!

You daft cunt. I didn't say your friend can live alone. He is where he should be. YOU, on the other hand, sure as shit CAN. You are going to milk this as long as possible. His poor parents will most likely have to start eviction proceedings to get you the hell out.

 

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